The Land of the Misfit Toys

“Why Am I Such A  Misfit?”. The second most famous song in the Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer series rings true with many people. Especially those with a mental illness. The stigma attached to the conditions can make one feel like a misfit, for certain. The conditions that correspond with the stigma can add to this notion as well.

The world is such an “either/or” world. Either you’re a Democrat, or you’re a Republican. Well, what if I’m both? Either you’re Catholic, or you’re Protestant. But what if I’m both? Either you’re manic,  you’re depressed, or you’re “normal”. Well, what if I am all of the above? Sometimes all at one time?

I wish I had not felt the sting of not fitting in. I’m afraid in my life it has been an over-riding theme. Beautiful are those, however, who do not have an either/or mentality. This is one of the gifts of Bipolar Disorder. You’ve seen, heard, and felt it all. Many who have suffered from a variety of mental illnesses are the least judgmental people you will meet as well. For we know what it is like to live out the whole spectrum of possibilities, and to have little to no control. To cope by using less than ideal measures. Been there, done or thought most everything, several times over. So who are we to judge?

I am not trying to pat myself on the back or anything. Yet, it is an observation that I have made of my own life and friends/peers/clients with mental illnesses that though we may feel we don’t fit in, we help others to feel comfortable with whatever they are going through. It is all about acceptance.  It seems that acceptance is something that we are especially in tune with. Like a distant melody that features highs, lows, dissonance, and harmony. One that the world rejects as too complex and complicated, yet one that we find at once beautifully ornate and familiar.

What makes you different makes you beautiful. Embrace your individuality. That beauty mark on your face is fierce. The little crook in our noses is endearing. That little bit of asymmetry makes us captivating and unpredictable. The beauty tip for the day is emphasize that which makes you unique. Make it a focal point and highlight of your look. You will leave them breathless. Like a beautiful, intriguing misfit, full of mystique and complexity.



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I am a wife, mother, RN, make-up artist, and musician, who also happens to have a mood disorder. Fortunately, I will not let the latter define me. I am also a survivor of suicide loss. This website is dedicated to my brother, Jefferson Joseph Blanton-Harris ("Joey"). This site is to share thoughts about beauty, fashion, and most of all, mental health. Because fabulousness starts with good mental health! ~"I only want to see you laughing in the Purple Rain" - Prince

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